I’m sure many of you guys have been subjected to “Facebook Unfriending” where people just remove you off their Facebook friends lists. Isn’t it just annoying/sad/irritating?
I used to find this practice ridiculously stupid. The mere suggestion that these people feel their friendships are so valuable is in my opinion terrible self-flattery desperately needed by the insecure to make themselves feel more superior than they’ll probably ever be in real life. It only takes a couple of clicks to take someone off your Facebook list. Clicks that only punctuate the word “COWARD” on the description of yourself.
After taking some time to think about it, I have come to realise that this act of cowardice should not be condemned so quickly. We are all cowards in one way or another. I have run away from problems and taken the easy way out on several occasions as I’m sure many of us have. As such, I’ve changed the way in which I deal with “Facebook Unfrinders” (thank goodness I’ve only had a few). I now stubbornly add them back on Facebook hoping that I can somehow convey a sense of sincere humility to them, and send them a Facebook message asking them in a joking manner to add me back. Isn’t humour one of God’s great inventions!
I’d just like to end off with a little advice for all the “Facebook Unfrienders” and victims of “Unfriending”…
Dear "Facebook Unfriender",
I understand that we all have our own methods of dealing with conflicts. I don’t pretend to be an expert on conflict management but I do believe that social media is a poor way of expressing frustration as it can only lead to more misunderstanding. It is also kinda out there for the world to see.
May I suggest talking it out over the phone or something more private and personal? Even if you can’t resolve the conflict, why resort to “unfriending”? It defies the entire purpose of social media… to CONNECT people, not to DISCONNECT them.
And again… just saying…
Dear Victims of Facebook Unfriending,
Rejoice! For you are worth enough time for someone to actually log into Facebook, access your Facebook page and delete you from his list! Someone IS thinking about you! Haha.
Well… the glass is half full… J
Be patient! We have to understand (or at least try to) that people don’t react to situations in the same ways that we do. We are all created and raised differently. It is a frustrating aspect of our human family as it creates so much conflict between us; but at the same time, one of those elements that make us so colourful and dynamic making our human race a truly beautiful one.
Facebook is for Friendship!